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How to build borders

Immediately, I am from another world, part of the things that the book touches, I just do not see and do not feel. But I know that I am not in the know, so my judgments cannot be comprehensive. I really want your opinion about the borders. Especially - where do you see the line between “scare” and “secure”.

Now about the book.

A good book for girls and girls. Dofigischa content. Text and assignments. But, the key problem is that it’s hard to imagine in what situation a teenager wants to read a book and do assignments.

The purpose of the book is to help girls figure out who they are, what their boundaries are and where. Ensure your personal and physical safety.

Like previous books from the series, they are also suitable for adults. Perhaps adults will even be more useful. It may even be useful for adult women who are successfully undergoing psychotherapy.

Keynote - Know yourself and make an effort to be safe and comfortable.

From the cool:

- For the book, studies were conducted and hundreds of interviews with girls were taken. That's cool.
- The rights of the individual are structured. (Not only useful for girls)
- Painted examples of disrespect and violation of rights and borders. Without excesses, very adequate. Again, useful to any gender and age.
- The norms of communication are formulated.
- There are cool questions for reflection and clear recommendations “what if”
- A million exercises. A conscious adult can replace this book with a year or two of psychotherapy.
- Interviews with the chief editors of glossy magazines, which can help remove the neurosis of matching illusions.
- The terms “objectification and dehumanization” have been clarified. Boys in the class will fly)
- Not bad about personal relationships, about building and even about breaking up. Valuable. Few adults know how to part adequately. Adults should read too.
- About violence. Types, situations, safety rules, assertive behavior. It can scare. Maybe it's good.
- Instructions on what to do with bullying.
- The coolest thing is the call to do something. That which I am ready to sign with all limbs.

From the excess / doubtful:
- For some reason stuck goal-setting
- About the body for very adults. But here it’s hard for me.
- Somehow sideways appeared meditation. Nothing bad in it, even vice versa, but somehow binding me logically does not work.
- About sex it’s boring. It's like a good mom says the right thing. But a cool phrase: "it's easier to have sex than discuss it with a partner."
- Calls for an active struggle for women's rights. Perhaps an excess, but here I’m better to listen to you, my bell tower does not allow me to see the true picture.

If you decide to give your daughter such a book - be prepared to work yourself. Much is required of the family. Actually, the experience of building borders begins there. And this movement may be contrary to common parental habits. Ready to change?

Brief squeeze: Be yourself, respect yourself, talk about needs, do something, negotiate.

Please, if you read or bought for a teenager - share your impressions, your opinion. It is important.

What do you think about borders?

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