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Alternative desires and focus on goals!

The first is to understand the terminology and concept.
What is the alternative?

The alternative is fr. alternative, from lat. alternatus - other
the ability to choose one of two or more exclusive
each other's possibilities, as well as each of these possibilities.

In a simple way, it's a choice instead of what I want
and not always equal, or rather there even
no mention of equivalence! ))

Here it is important to realize:
Do I always choose the best alternative?
And is this always what I really want?
Is this not an imposed desire?
And can I not choose at all from what was offered to me?

This is a choice without a choice!

I will analyze an example for a married couple:
- Darling, where do you want us to go on vacation, to Sochi or to the Crimea?
- Aaaa, I want to Thailand.
- And why?
- There are palm trees, sand, sea ...
- So it means all the same in Crimea then, there it all is))

So what is the alternative?
Does it contradict your true desire?
Does it lead you away from your true goal?

Try and remember now, and I'm sure there will be
in a couple of minutes about a dozen of NOT your desires and goals,
which you have implemented or are still implementing,
but I didn't really understand them as my own)

And now the positive side of alternative desires and goals.

If you create alternative options for yourself:

An example is all with the same pair:
- Darling, where do you want us to go on vacation, to Sochi or to the Crimea?
- No, this year I will be vacationing in Asia, for example Thailand or Bali ...
- And why?
- I always wanted to go there since childhood)) And by the way, my school friend will keep me company, so don't worry if something happens ...
- So, I remember that! Yes, you are right, of course you need to realize your true dreams! We all eat together!

Is there a difference between the first example and the second?

The second option is a girl in the context of a dialogue,
does not choose from the options offered,
and she clearly outlines her version of her vacation,
his true goals and dreams and does it - without appeal!

Another positive version of an alternative desire,
as i believe this is the way to implement it!

Our brains are designed to look for complex solutions.
When as a couple, the solution lies right under our noses.

But why are we skidding? Fear? Uncertainty? Greed?

It happens all at once!

But there is a solution that helps you quickly "sober up"!

And now will be the most interesting!

Practice: you need an A4 sheet pen and 10-15 minutes.
So, now you have what kind of task - a goal,
you take it and write it in capital letters at the top of the sheet.
For example "I need a new phone" model such and such ".
And then you write AT LEAST TEN reasons - why or why do I need it?
- I can take cool photos and videos for the content of my projects.
- I will listen to more audio books.
- I will be able to conduct live broadcasts for social networks.
- I will use apps for personal effectiveness.
- I will be able to connect to a projector for presentation without a laptop ....
- I will feel very good ...
- etc.

The bottom line is that you yourself justify the fact that you really need it.
Then all fears and uncertainties with greed - fall off)))

Now about the trick - not from David Copperfield,
but on our real desire and how it can be realized!

Let's take the same example with the phone,
Practice: again you need a sheet of A4 size pen and 10-15 minutes.
- "how can I get a" model "phone?
And then a dozen or more how can I get it:
1. They'll just give it to me - or give it back.
2. I'll just find him on the street.
3. Buy myself (a).
4. I will receive as a barter for my services (goods)
5. I will receive for the debts.
6. Someone from friends or acquaintances will profitably sell it to me for 30% of the cost.
7. I'll get a bonus at work for this amount and buy it.
8. I will sell a couple of my paintings .....
9. ..... etc.
The more options the better.

No loans, no negative options.
Only in a positive way and mood.

And it works, that's how many times I've been,
the same number of times it worked for me! ))

What is the matter here?

In the first case, we ourselves prove the necessity,
HAVE - to have, to receive it, and let us accept it!

In the second case, we expand our perception,
possibility of implementation options! This is extremely important!

Because you just want your brain and your self, this is not enough,
here you need to "show" that it is really necessary, important, and desirable))

This method can be called Target Specification.

Specification - from the late Latin specificatio,
from lat. species - species, variety and lat. facio - doing.

Now, guys, write what everyone chose for themselves
TO SPECIFY and was it easy or difficult?