transurfer: Довольно часто можно слышать, что люди жалуются...

transurfer: Quite often you can hear people complain that they are accused of "you are a bad daughter / bad son". What does it mean to be a “good kid”? As a rule, neither the accused nor the accused are aware of this. For many parents, this measure of sufficiency and fit is based on the feeling that they are happy as parents. If happiness is not felt, then the child is also bad. On the child, as a source of unhappiness (well, what is there, if there is no happiness, then many already consider it a misfortune), aggression begins to be committed, with an undefined goal. In fact, they don't want anything specific from a child, because happiness, as a rule, also does not have any special characteristics and dimensions. It is such a big, indefinite and boundless something that "makes it nice" Just so that the parent wants some action from the child to make it feel good. And since no one can make a person happy except that person, the process of extracting happiness from a child is delayed. Whatever he does, everything will be wrong. The parent does not know that his role is not only to feel good. The child does not know that he cannot do anything about the happiness of the parent. The happiness of someone else is beyond the competence and boundaries of the child
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